Thursday, February 24, 2011

Where I End

Over a cup of mosambi juice we discussed everything from soulless jobs to life long dreams and politics. The Indian monsoon, our catalyst, thrust us into a deep chemical reaction that made night and day one and wreaked utter havoc on our subconscious and conscious minds. 

In one dark room in the heat of summer we spend hours trying to unfold the mystery we found in each other. They were months of fevered desire that made it difficult to remember where everything began. They were times that made us lose all interest in life and all motivation because we found so much contentment that we couldn't contain without making place for it by destroying something else. So we destroyed all the past and began from scratch. Times when meeting friends for lunch seemed like foreplay because it teased out all the moments we would rather spend just with each other. Times when we knew that nothing would ever equal or come close to equaling what our bodies and minds were going through and yet we dove into the abyss relentlessly.  

A friend once told me that Native Americans always left a tiny flaw in their handmade jewelry. This saved the jewelry from the wrath of God's because only God was allowed to create perfection. I know that God does not create perfection because he created you. Remember that time I said - to me you are perfection? I lied. I meant to me you are perfectly flawed. To me you are where I began and where I end.


Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Thorn Birds

This is something I wrote a while back. I came across it today and I think I want to save it. 


Today was the day I learned to love. Never before did I understand or know that it would mean so much. But, today I understand that it was the best thing that happened to me.

They say that the thorn bird does not sing its sweetest song till the day it finds the thorn bush in which it can entangle itself and die. I am that bird.

I dont need to know that you will be there.. you will. I have felt you, in my dreams lying on my pillow. I have felt your breath down my neck though you were a thousand miles from me. I know that you and me together are more than just a memory.

And I will sing my sweetest song. Not for you alone, but because it makes me happy that you were the one who brought the song to my lips.

I knew not what I was capable of giving, bearing, holding.. till you showed me. Now I am a woman and so much more woman than I would ever be had you not met me. I will not miss you because you are me and I am you.. and I know that you will take care of me...

Friday, February 11, 2011

Lost in Transition

Since December 29, 2010, here are the places I have been:

1. Princeton, NJ
2. Manhattan, NY
3. Berkeley, CA
4. SF, 1886 Market @ Guerrero 
5. SF, 635 Minna St (after which I returned to NY)
6. Mont Clair, VA (after which I returned to NY again)
7. Falls Church, VA

I was supposed to somehow fit in the Boston but I decided to flake. 

So it won't come as a surprise that a few nights back I had a dream that I was back in my boarding school preparing for a basketball meet. However, I had no recollection of where I had slept the nights before. My teacher kept asking me for an address and I didn't have one. I was just lost. That sums up a lot of what I am feeling right now. In all my life I haven't changed as many beds as I did in the last one month. 

However, last night I finally ventured out into the suburban wilderness. My friend recommended this really nice Peruvian place for dinner thats 10 mins walking distance from my house and I decided to go there. Then stopped by and got some tea at Caribou Coffee. Caribou is quickly becoming a favourite of mine. I sometimes take my laptop and go work there. It has more character than most average coffee places in the US. It also has an uber cute barista who I think is from Turkey. 

O! Did I mention that I have a job that allows me to work from anywhere I want? Initially I was really skeptical but now I feel very Carrie Bradshaw-esque ala Sex and the City. Except I still need to find two GF's who are extremely sexually liberated and one who is a whore. I do have two really nice GF's in town who I intend to go watch a movie with over the weekend. 

O! Did I mention my tresses are gone? I still have to run my hands through to remind myself... 


Thursday, February 3, 2011

What it means to be a Bangali...

A big part of being Bengali is being from the most progressive part of India. The first Indian women college graduates were from Calcutta. The first women doctors also from Bengal. All but one of India's Noble Laureates are from Bengal. As much as we try to be humble its hard to ignore the heritage that is such a perfect mix of history, culture and progression. 


Whether a Calcuttan admits it or not a big part of being Bengali is knowing what Marxism really means. Quite possibly the worlds longest surviving Marxist regime for close to 4 uninterrupted decades now - Bengal is hard baked against anti-communist propaganda. The red flags all over the state don't surprise any Bengali. I think it would be really surprising to go home to not find these flags. We take strikes and bandhs for granted. In fact back in school we just called it a holiday. All I am saying is that there is a reason that many people prefer Bengal as a place to retire. I am looking forward to seeing how the latest battle plays out. 


Food!!! The more the better. Calcutta is the food capital of India. Nowhere else in India will you find the same variety of Indian and international cuisine - a colonial heritage. Bengali's live to eat and not the other way around. Fish, spices and sweets. Ask any Indian and they will concur. Rarely will a Bengali woman who is not slightly chubby be considered beautiful. 


Emotions :( Yes we react and overreact. Bengali's are surrounded by emotional and sentimental people. Always suspect the Bengali that doesn't overreact. 


Melancholy - Don't roll your eyes and act like its untrue. You know the movies we love the most are the saddest ones. The books we recommend - also sad. Our favourite music - hella sad! We truly understand what Wordsworth meant when he said "... In that sweet mood when pleasant thoughts bring sad thoughts to the mind." I think we got it the other way around though. 


Adda - There is no good translation for this. It is basically a chat. Of course this comes with endless cups of tea and pakoras... nom nom and PNPC (Para ninde para charcha.) 


Sound of ghungroos and raga's in the evening. If you grew up in Bengal you know that the smell of Dhuno in the evening is accompanied by that of Shankha and girls practicing their ragas or Bharatnatyam or Kathak. 

Finally as Vir Sanghvi said "But if you want a city with a soul: come to Calcutta ."